Self-Kindness…

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I have been incredibly kind to myself this week.  I’ve been focusing on my own exercise program, two training sessions and two water exercise programs a week.  Had I been any kinder, I don’t think I’d be able to walk.  Just kidding, sort of…

I ‘ve been through a whole series of physical therapy sessions and then personal trainers since I hurt my right knee last fall, basically after running up and down the stairs too much in the wrong shoes before vacation.  At my age apparently even walking can be risky.

Since my knee is doing pretty well now, I decided I would ramp up my exercise program a little bit.  We have a very modern and fairly inexpensive park district facility about one and a half miles from my house and hubby and son, Dave, and I all signed up.

My new personal trainer is Pat, a tiny woman in adorable size two work out clothes who puts me through the paces twice a week.  She told me that my form is excellent and whoever worked with me before did a great job — that would have been Evil Personal Trainer Keith.  Pat is just as evil, I think, in her own sweet way.  I need to get to know her better to be sure.  She is very encouraging and makes me almost forget how hot and sweaty and tired I am!

Now I may have confused being kind to myself with being good to myself, but I really like to exercise and life had kind of gotten in the way of me doing that for awhile.  And I think many women, moms in particular, tend to put their needs last.

So right now, being kind to myself means I’m going to continue focusing on taking care of my own health and well-being by exercising for my physical health and writing for my mental health. And trying not to be too hard on myself about either one.

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In response to the 2016 Kindness Challenge at The Richness of a Simple Life.

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75 responses

  1. Kindness begets Kindness…. Delicious……Hugs! ❤

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  2. I was wondering how your fitness goals played out this week! Sounds like you are doing amazing!! Self-kindness is whatever it means to you! Focusing on your needs and health is a valuable aspect of being kind to yourself! I hope that you continue with this new exercise regimen that is working out so well for you! Thank you for participating in the challenge!

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    1. It was a good focus for me. I think women in general are far too self-critical. I’m enjoying the challenge so far!

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      1. And too used to putting other’s needs ahead of their own. You just start to forget about yourself. So glad that you were able to find time for you!

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      2. I’m finding I need to make time!

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      3. Good for you! The more that rings true, the more you’ll find creative ways to sneak the time in 😉

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  3. “Self compassion…”

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  4. I need kindness lessons… when it comes to me. No problem with everyone around me, but kind to myself is a challenge. I also need a personal trainer. There’s no way I can spend a penny on that right now what with the lack of income and all (plus I’m not sure I could find an inexpensive one around here)… and the kids will be out of school in about month so I won’t have nearly as much time to myself. Ahh, see? I’ll be doing my best to give them a fun, active, exciting summer. Not a lot of time to do much for me!

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    1. It is so difficult when you’re a mom, I know and we always put our kids’ needs ahead of our own. It’s difficult not to. Maybe something active with the kids or if they’re at sports, sometimes I used to walk around the baseball fields while they had practice, etc. I sympathize, cause mine are adults and I do have more free time…

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      1. My kids kind of hate sports. Probably because John and I also kind of hate them. They’d rather do some LEGO engineering. Great for their minds… lacking for their bodies. They are skinny little kids (especially my son… he’s a rail)… But still they need to run around!

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      2. Hahaha, nothing wrong with Legos. Both hubby and older son are engineers and my son was incredibly good with Legos as a kid. Me, not so much!

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      3. I am amazed at some of the stuff they build! Way more complex than anything I built as a kid, I think. But I did build my dream kitchen with LEGO not too long ago. It’s been dismantled since, but I think I actually have pics of it! Haha… I should post.

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      4. OMG, of course you should post that!!

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      5. I’ll look for the pics… 🙂

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  5. I admire your diligence Diane. Kind or good, keep up the good work.

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    1. I do like how I feel afterwards and it is great for blog stories 😀

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  6. I love this, Diane.

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    1. Thanks, Rita. Hard to focus on ourselves, even when kids are older, isn’t it?

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      1. Yes! It feels selfish, yet it’s the only way to be at our best to love the others in our lives ❤️

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  7. Showing kindness to oneself is the perfect place to start. Everyone needs to do that. And I know you deserve it.

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    1. Thanks, we all deserve it but I think many women feel guilty taking time for themselves. I will try to stop being so self-critical also, especially with my writing! You, too!xxoo

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      1. Yes, yes, yes. We’re all hard on ourselves I have been brutalizing myself over the small bout with writer’s block this week. We have to stop doing that. (There are enough critics in this world).

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      2. Boy, isn’t that the truth?? Lol, you were awfully down on yourself this week.

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  8. I’ve been trying to be kind to myself this week. Sometimes you have to. But it’s not easy. Good on you!

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    1. It’s not easy to put yourself first, is it, especially for women?

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  9. I got back into exercising about a month ago — used to be really good about it, but then I slacked off. Not only does it give me more energy, it seems to help me make better choices in other areas, like eating the right foods, wearing nicer clothes, etc. Definitely helps with my outlook!
    So yes, absolutely it’s being kind to yourself!

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    1. Yes, I agree. I was always athletic and used to do more then things got too busy. Now I’m making the time to put myself first. I do like how it makes me feel!

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  10. Moms tend to neglect their needs, especially exercise and physical training. Can’t agree more. We need to spend a little time for us…a little act of kindness for our own good… 🙂

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    1. Yes, and I know it’s so hard when your kids are small and lots of people work, but sometimes you have to find creative solutions!

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  11. Wow wonderful kindness to you getting your self into top shape

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    1. I need to take better care of myself!

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  12. Kudos for the kindness to yourself. 🙂

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    1. Thank you, I’ve decided I need to take better care of myself!

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      1. I need to do this myself. I eat moderately healthy but my exercise has been slacking. I need to get back in the grove again of power walking. 🙂

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      2. It’s so easy to keep everyone else on track and let our goals take a back seat, at least for me. I think it’s a mom thing 🙂 good for you to get back to your walking!

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      3. Yes, I agree. Being a mother certainly puts a new perspective on life.

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  13. Taking care of yourself both physically and mentally is one of the best kindnesses you can afford yourself!! Keep up the great work!! 🙂

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  14. I love everything about this! Being kind to yourself is one of the hardest things! Realizing that working out IS being kind to yourself on so many levels. Accepting that you deserve it. wow! I am just to glad to know you and read this! ❤ thank you

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    1. Oh, thank you. I’m glad to know you, too! It’s hard, I think, for most women to put themselves first but I am trying!

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      1. You rocked self kindness!

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      2. I am trying to just go with it and not get discouraged. I always want things to happen immediately 🙂

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  15. Good for you Diane. Exercising does wonders for the soul as well as the body! Go girl! xo 🙂

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      1. Yay for you! 🙂

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      2. You, too, I love your plan for mindfulness

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      3. Thanks, now to follow it through … 🙂

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      4. Always the hard part, yes!

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      5. But we can do it, hey? 🙂

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      6. You betcha, we’ll support each other!

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  16. I think this is a perfect example of self-kindness. And yay you!

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    1. Thank you so much! I’m fighting hard against any negative voices 🙂

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  17. Diane, I wish we all could be kinder. I believe you give a lot of yourself, at school, listening to children. I like how you get us to smile and laugh about life here. I am sure being kinder to yourself is something more as an afterthought. Hugs for YOU!! 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Robin. I think women, especially moms, are used to putting ourselves last. We need to find time for ourselves and I’m determined to do that!

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  18. Thank you so much for posting about your fitness goals and about your personal trainer and her size two! 😀
    That is what motivated me to get back on the fitness path! I am working out now every day, so please keep such motivating posts going! 🙂

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    1. I’m going to see her in a few minutes 🙂

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      1. Then I shall look forward to another post about today’s workout! 😉

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  19. Love that post! Love in particular to “Had I been any kinder, I don’t think I’d be able to walk.” 😀
    Kind regards – Robert.

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    1. Thanks, Robert! Gotta see the humor in things, right?

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      1. Abso-blooming-lutely essential! 🙂

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  20. What a great post! The spiritual group I study with has as one of its first foundations, “take care of yourself so you can help take care of others”. I see you doing this. Good for you, and love the title of self-kindness. ❤ Thanks and blessings. So glad I saw this.

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    1. Thanks, I really appreciate you reading. I think women, and especially mom’s, have a difficult time making our needs a priority

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  21. Hi, great post! I am modeling my blog to be fitness inspiration and definitely want to use content like this. I look forward to seeing more of your ideas and following your journey

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